Women and orgasms: a subject that too few men are proficient in. And while it may be a bit of a complex topic, if you have the correct knowledge and the right techniques, making a woman orgasm isn’t as difficult as you may think.
Yet, the orgasm gap is still at large. And we want to correct that.
So, we have tackled some of the hottest topics around women and orgasms, and give you the best tips on how to make a woman orgasm.
What this article covers:
Female Orgasm Techniques
For most women, having an orgasm is not a straightforward experience. It is tricky to get women to climax, especially since every woman likes to be stimulated in a unique and different way.
Luckily, there are a few different orgasm techniques women can use to reach their climax. It is all about playing around and figuring out what works best for your partner.
Here are some different techniques that you can use to make a female orgasm, whether that be yourself or a partner. Take note that there are many other ways to orgasm, too, but the techniques we have listed are some of the most common and effective techniques.
Stimulating the G-Spot during sex is a great technique to get a woman to orgasm. G-Spot stimulation can stimulate squirting, which can lead to an enhanced orgasm.
The G-Spot can be stimulated with a finger, sex toys, or making sure that you use the best sex positions for squirting.
Make sure you and your partner know where the G-Spot is before the time, as it may differ slightly from woman to woman.
Clitoral stimulation is one of the most effective techniques to get a woman to orgasm and is a great way to make her have multiple orgasms.
Use your finger, mouth, or a sex toy to stimulate the woman’s clitoris, and watch as she’s filled with pleasure.
Women like their clitoris to be stimulated in different ways, so make sure that you know how your partner likes it best.
Using Sex Toys
Sex toys are a wonderful little addition to help women reach an amazing climax.
There are a lot of different toys that you can try, but the majority of women enjoy vibrators, dildos, and vibrating rings.
Vibrators that stimulate a woman on the inside and outside are most effective, as they can stimulate the clitoris, and all of the internal pleasure points, simultaneously.
Sex toys give a sensation that you aren’t able to offer with their fingers or mouths, so it can lead to erogenous zones being targeted in ways that she has never felt before.
It is very hard for a woman’s partner to make her orgasm if she doesn’t know how to do it herself, or what she likes best. Masturbation is perfect for helping with this.
Oral stimulation can lead to sensations that some women could never imagine. Using your tongue to go down on her stimulates all of her sensitive nerve endings in a way like none other.
We would also recommend using the Kivin Method for oral stimulation. This is where the giver (of oral stimulation) is positioned horizontally under the woman’s leg.
This allows you to have access to more surface area of her clitoris, and you can also use your tongue in different motions.
It is definitely possible to make a woman climax through penetration, but penetration alone will rarely get her there.
Rather use a combination of penetration and other orgasm techniques if you want to take her over the edge.
Make sure that when you are having penetrative sex, you are using the best positions to make her orgasm. This includes positions like downward dog, reverse cowgirl, missionary, the bridge, and sideways spoon.
The Best Ways to Make a Woman Orgasm
How to Give the Best Orgasm to a Woman
Step 1: Make Sure That You Communicate
Communication is one of the best ways to ensure that your partner has an incredible orgasm.
Not only do you need to communicate during sex, but it is so important to communicate before time, and get to know how your partner likes to be pleasured.
Knowing what your partner likes and how she likes to be stimulated before you do the deed, will be a huge help in getting her to reach one of the best orgasms she has experienced.
It is no secret that the way in which women like to be aroused and pleasured differs from woman to woman. Knowing how your partner likes it done, and what techniques make her most aroused will increase your chances of getting her to reach her maximum climax.
It is also important to communicate during your sexual encounter and make sure that she likes what you are doing. If it is not stimulating her properly, she won’t reach orgasm at all. And the only way for you to know this is if the two of you communicate throughout the whole experience.
Step 2: Set the Mood
Women take much longer to get aroused than men do. And, if they are in a calm, peaceful environment, it can help with the process.
Setting the mood can help a woman to relax, too. This will give you the best chance of getting them to orgasm. When women are stressed and alert, it is less likely that they will orgasm as they have too much on their minds.
Set the mood by dimming the lights, playing some romantic, calming music, giving each other full body massages, or slipping into something sexy.
Doing all of these things will help your partner get turned on, and also relax – two factors that are crucial if you want to give her the best orgasm.
Step 3: Don’t Rush to Achieve Climax
As we said, women tend to take a while to get aroused and get to that point of climax. The worst thing you could do, though, is to try and rush the process.
Don’t try to speed up her orgasm too much, as this could ruin the whole process completely. The goal of sex is pleasure, and if you are trying to rush it, neither of you will end up enjoying yourself.
So rather, just be present at the moment, take your time and have fun together. This is much more likely to make her have a great orgasm.
Step 4: Focus on Lengthy Foreplay
Again, it’s a pretty long process to get women properly aroused. And, without foreplay, she most probably won’t even come close to reaching an orgasm.
During this foreplay is when you need to put that communication that we spoke about into play. Make sure you know what she likes, and try to stick to that. Allow her to guide you during sex, and ask if there’s anything that you can do differently.
It is also important to make sure you enjoy this part of the sex. Don’t make it seem like you are simply doing it because you were told that it would enhance her orgasm. This will put her off completely.
Rather, get immersed in the foreplay, and really try and enjoy yourself too.
Foreplay is all about being gentle. Some women might tell you they want you to be a bit more rough and forceful, but the majority of women like foreplay to be slow and gentle.
Focus on kissing her (all over her body), massaging her, caressing her neck, and external clitoral stimulation.
We’ll touch on that last point a bit later on, as it’s a topic that deserves a heading of its own.
Step 5: External Stimulation of the Clitoris
Around 36% of women have testified that they have a better orgasm if their clitoris is stimulated during sex. Only about 18% of women are actually able to orgasm through penetration alone. This shows how important clitoris stimulation is, and how much of an impact it can have on your partner’s orgasm and experience.
The clitoris is packed with a bunch of nerve endings, and when stimulated correctly, can send sparks through a woman’s body.
Find out how your partner likes her clitoris to be stimulated. This includes what movements and pressure she prefers, and what she would like you to use to do it, such as your finger or a sex toy.
Clitoris stimulation is a technique that can help take your partner’s pleasure to the next level, no matter what you use to achieve it.
Step 6: Get Toys Involved
Don’t be scared to recruit the help of some sex toys; they can be absolute game changers when it comes to giving a woman a mind-blowing orgasm.
Over 50% of women use vibrators to help them reach climax, as they can’t get there without it. Vibrators and sex toys offer something that we as humans literally just cannot.
Sex toys unleash a new sensation, and can very likely be the thing that pushes your woman over the edge and helps her to experience the most intense, satisfying orgasm.
Step 7: Don’t Be Afraid to Use Your Mouth
Oral sex, especially when you use your tongue to stimulate her clitoris, can be the difference between intense, orgasmic sex, and average sex.
53% of women that they are able to orgasm as a result of oral sex. Oral sex allows you to generate sensations that toys, or your fingers, never can.
Step 8: Use The Right Positions to Help with Penatrive Orgasm
It is definitely a lot harder for women to orgasm through penetration, but it is not impossible either. This is especially true if you have already spent time arousing them beforehand.
The key to causing a mind-blowing penetrative orgasm also lies in using the correct sex positions. These are normally sex positions that help you to last longer so that she can have more time to reach her climax.
Examples of these positions include missionary (with the make on top), doggy style, and cowgirl. The last two positions are perfect for targeting her G-Spot, which will increase the chances of her experiencing one of the best orgasms of her life.
How Can a Woman Climax Herself?
It is so important for a woman to be able to climax herself. It will help her figure out what she loves or hates during sex, and it will help her get more in tune with her body and stay more relaxed during sex.
Luckily, it is not difficult for a woman to climax by herself. So, if you are trying to figure out exactly how to masturbate, we have some great tips for you.
Step 1: Relax
Before you start masturbating, take a deep breath and relax. Don’t feel stressed and anxious and put pressure on yourself to get it right the first time.
Use this time to get to know your turn-ons and what pleasures you. Stress and worry is often the thing that stops female ejaculation, as you aren’t letting your mind relax and enjoy the pleasurable sensations that you are feeling.
So, take away the pressure and worry, and just enjoy this time with yourself and really feel and take in the sensations that you will be experiencing.
Step 2: Take Away Any Expectations That You May Have
This links to the previous step, too. When you masturbate, try not to have an end in mind. Don’t have expectations of how it should feel, how the experience should go, or how fast you should reach climax.
These expectations can taint your whole experience and take away the joy and pleasure of it. Having expectations that are too high can ruin your chances of climaxing at all.
Step 3: Experiment
Take this alone time to experiment and explore your body. You won’t know what the best way for you to reach climax is if you don’t do this.
Even if you find an amazing way to make yourself climax during masturbation, keep experimenting and playing around to see if you can find something even better.
Play around with different stroke techniques and pressures until you figure out what the best way to get yourself to climax is.
Step 4: Put Most Of Your Focus On Clitoris Or G-Spot Stimulation
Clitoris and G-Spot stimulation is what is going to get you to climax when you are masturbating.
Some women prefer clitoral stimulation, while others prefer G-Spot stimulation. Stick to what turns you on the most, and don’t feel pressured to love both.
For G-Spot stimulation, place two fingers inside your vagina and hook them up as if you were wanting to tickle your belly button from the inside. The G-Spot will feel slightly different from the rest of the tissue in that area, it will feel raised or bumpy.
Keep going with that come-hither motion. If you get a sensation where you feel like you are about to pee, keep going. You are about to squirt while masturbating and have one of the most incredible orgasms.
When it comes to clitoris stimulation, start off slow and steady. Stroke your clitoris in a motion that stimulates you best. As blood starts to rush to this area, your body will start to respond to what you are doing and ask for more.
When you get to this stage, start going faster and applying more pressure until you reach your climax.
Step 5: Use Sex Toys To Enhance Your Experience
Sex toys are a great addition to help you reach orgasm during masturbation. This is an especially handy tool for women who take a while to reach climax, or for women who have nails that are too long.
Dildos and vibrators are the best toys for women to use to help themselves climax. They help to provide a sensation that women can’t always provide on their own and can take masturbation orgasms to the next level.
Extra Female Orgasm Tips
While we have already discussed the most important tips to achieving female orgasm, here are a few extra that may help you to take your partner, or yourself, into orgasmic heaven.
Nothing is worse for a female than there not being enough lubrication during sex. Whether that be penetrative sex, or even during external stimulation. It can be sore and unpleasant and destroy the moment for a woman, which will decrease the chance of her reaching an orgasm.
And while natural lube may be excreted as you go, it can take a while to happen, which can ruin the experience before you are very far in.
A study also concluded that it is 50% easier to orgasm when lube is used. And with it already being a challenge for some women to orgasm, why not make your chances as high as possible?
Indulge In Your Partner’s Fantasies
Be open with your partner, and ask if they have any sexual fantasies that they’ve been wanting to explore. If they do, try and bring it to life. And if they don’t, think about making one together.
Indulging in fantasies can stimulate and arouse your partner psychologically, which is just as important as physical arousal when you want to have an orgasm.
Females, even more so than men, like to be mentally stimulated during sex, which also helps with enhancing physical arousal, making fantasies a great extra to achieve orgasm.
Use Dirty Talk
Dirty talk is something that certain women love, but others are not a fan of, so make sure you find this out before the time.
But, if your partner does enjoy dirty talk, this can be a great way to turn her on and get her more aroused. Dirty talk doesn’t have to be vulgar, it can be sexy and focused on dialogue that turns them on.
Clear Your Head
It can be easy to overthink and get stuck in your head. Unfortunately, this is the killer of orgasms. One of the biggest tips we can give to help women orgasm is to make sure that they are relaxed and get out of their heads.
While making a woman orgasm can be a tricky ordeal, if you follow the correct steps, and make sure you communicate with her, it isn’t as hard as it seems.
Learning how to make your partner orgasm, or even better, learning how to intensify a female orgasm, will not only blow her mind, but it can also bring you closer as a couple.
So, even though it may take a bit more time to learn, it is well worth it.
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