What Does a Female Orgasm Feel Like

What Does a Female Orgasm Feel Like?

Are you wanting to know more about your or your female partner’s sexual experience? If so, you might be wondering – what does a female orgasm feel like?

This may be different from person to person and is dependent on various factors. There is both a physical and an emotional component to female orgasm. There are, however, some common physical denominators in the field of female orgasm. 

The causes of orgasm are usually narrowed down to a certain set of factors, although the experience of orgasm may differ. Join us as we examine all of these, in our guide below. 

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What Is a Female Orgasm Supposed to Feel Like?

To understand what a female orgasm feels like, we need to look at what happens to the female body during an orgasm. The best way to explain this is to look at the three stages: pre-orgasm, orgasm itself, and post-orgasm sensations.

Pre Orgasm

When a woman is sexually aroused, the body enters a state of heightened tension, and her heart rate and breathing increase.  Her face becomes flushed and her nipples become erect.  Blood flow to the pelvic region also increases, as with a male.

Many muscles throughout the body may tighten, and all of this tension gets to a point where it needs to be released. This then happens via an orgasm. Of course, an orgasm is not necessarily dependent on penetrative or vaginal sex. Many women are more likely to orgasm from clitoral stimulation.

During Orgasm

When the muscles surrounding the uterus, vagina, and anus contract upon releasing that tension, it is experienced as an orgasm. The number of contractions can differ, as can the intensity of the sensations. The norm is about 3 – 5 such contractions. 

These contractions will usually be felt the strongest wherever the most tension was experienced.  Women feel it more intensely in their vagina sometimes, and other times in areas of the body. Orgasm is usually accompanied by those tell-tale moans of pleasure and trembling legs. 

Bear in mind though that when this is not as obvious, it does not mean that your female partner has not enjoyed herself. All women experience orgasms differently.


There is a refractory period between women’s orgasms. While a man’s refractory period can sometimes take quite a while, it’s not always noticeable in women.

For some women, five seconds or less, and they’re good to go again. But this is not always the case. And most women may want to lie in your arms and cuddle for a while first, though. 

Ever wondered why women get tired after orgasm and just want to cuddle? Most of the time this is not due to being tired. While some women do report feeling sleepy after an orgasm, a better description of this would be feeling mellow. And there’s a sound reason for this.

The “feel good” hormone, oxytocin, is released after sex. For this reason, it has become known as the love hormone or orgasm hormone. This hormone makes one feel more affectionate and relaxed. 

What Does a Woman Feel During Ejaculation?

Female ejaculation is a very misunderstood topic. This is largely due to the confusion surrounding “squirting”. Female ejaculation and squirting are, in fact, two different things. As for what a woman feels during this experience, it does not change the sensation of orgasm in any measurable way. 

Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation usually means the secretion of milky-looking fluid during orgasm or sexual arousal. It contains some elements that are common to male ejaculation. This fluid does not gush out and is usually more of a trickle.

Because it is not as much of a show as squirting, it may go unnoticed during sex. Whether it is present or not does not have any bearing on whether a woman has been aroused and enjoyed sex. In some women, ejaculatory fluid is minimal and makes no difference to the sensation of pleasure.


Squirting, it has now been established, is not the same as female ejaculatory secretion. Diluted urine makes up a large percentage of what is in a squirt. It can be triggered by an orgasm and may be more of a spurt than with regular ejaculation fluid. 

Okay, so squirting is related to, but not exactly the same as female ejaculation. But why do some women squirt during sex

Some women can and do quirt, some don’t. It appears to be a largely involuntary reaction. 

Can You Feel When a Woman Orgasms?

If you have a female partner, you might be asking yourself this, alongside how long it takes to make a woman orgasm.

Many sexual experiences are overshadowed by a man’s need to know if they can feel when a woman orgasms. If you are a guy reading this and it sounds like you, it is probably borne from concern about whether or not you are pleasing your partner. So let’s take a look at the answer.

“Feeling” Her Orgasm

You probably won’t really “feel” their female partner’s orgasm on their penis. It may be possible for a partner with more girth but it is not very likely. But, ejaculation and squirting can often indicate that your female partner has potentially had an orgasm.

If your female partner can squirt, it is usually clear whether or not she has orgasmed. The reason why some women squirt when having sex is unclear. But it often occurs simultaneously with sex, but not always,

Anywhere from 10 to 54% of women claim to have ejaculated or squirted, but research has not been able to narrow down a more conclusive number. It is just one of the wonderful forms of orgasm expression that exist in women, but it is not necessary for healthy and satisfying sex life. 

As explained, an orgasm is the culmination of pent-up sexual tension in the body. Some women reach orgasm more quickly than others, but it can also depend on the type of stimulation received during sex. 

Does Feeling It Depend on the Type of Orgasm?

A squirting orgasm, or one accompanied by female ejaculation, is going to be more visible, and offer more excitement to the woman’s partner. It can be seen as a sign of her pleasure. But orgasms are felt differently depending on the area where the pent-up sexual tension is greater. 

Stimulation of the clitoris or the g-spot would more likely bring powerful orgasms. So if you are wanting to feel her orgasm, you may want to try this.

The G-spot is easier to reach in certain sex positions than in others, due to the angle. Women-on-top positions are good for this. In this position, it might be easier for a female partner to reach orgasm, but it is different for every woman.

It is believed that the periurethral glands, or Skene’s glands, are triggered to cause ejaculation or squirting when the g-spot is stimulated. Only women who were born with female genitalia have Skene’s glands. They are located around the lower end of the urethra and are stimulated during arousal. 


Anyone can enjoy a better sex life with the right attitude and the right information. Thanks to ongoing research studies into sexuality, and more openness about sex in general, we now know more about women’s sexuality and orgasms than ever before.

It seems clear that women can experience orgasm in different ways, and at different intensities. These orgasms may even differ from each sexual encounter to the next.

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