To most couples, sexual pleasure means penetration. And while there’s nothing wrong with making women cum from penetration, it isn’t the only way to have a good time in the bedroom.
Whether you’re turning to ‘outercourse’ for religious, health, or personal reasons, here’s how to make a woman climax without penetration.
We’ll cover a variety of fun ways to cum that incorporate kink, manual stimulation, and some good old sexual context. And remember, don’t forget to have fun and talk to your partner about what works for them.
How to Make a Woman Climax without Penetration
Use Your Fingers
The first way to make a girl cum without penetration is by using your fingers. It’s a classic method and many of you might feel a little nervous about getting the rhythm and pressure right. But all you need to do is take a breather with your partner and ask them what they like.
You can masturbate a woman to orgasm with your fingers in two main ways: by working the clitoris or stimulating the G-spot with your fingers.
When it comes to clitoral stimulation, there is no one size fits all guide. But as a general rule of thumb, don’t go straight into it. A lot of the pleasure from clitoral stimulation comes from the slow build-up. If you overstimulate the clitoris, it’s likely to go numb and chase away any oncoming orgasm.
Secondly, If the goal is to avoid penile sex but not all penetration, you can make a girl cum from fingering. With fingering, you can stimulate the G-spot while incorporating other stimuli to get a woman to cum.
Use Your Mouth
The next best way to make a girl cum is by making her cum with your mouth. But before you try oral sex, discuss it with your partner first
While many women love oral sex, just as many don’t like the thought or sensation of it at all. So, if you spring it on her without forethought, it might not go well.
If your partner is into oral sex or wants to try it, great!
For oral sex, get creative. Spread the labia, enjoy finger, nipple, or anal play, or keep her underwear on (it can make the clitoris more sensitive). You can also use the temperature of your breath to add sensation and suck on the clitoris to make her cum.
Even if you have to avoid all penetration, you can still have a lot of fun with oral sex.
Use Non-Penetrative Toys
Sex toys are a great addition to non-penetrative sexual pleasure and there are endless ways to enjoy it. There are many types of toys you can use, like body wands, suction toys, and bullet vibrators.
The key to toy sexual pleasure is to focus on the whole body. While you might think it’s a good idea to go straight to the clitoris, don’t. It could overstimulate your partner.
Instead, go on a little detour. Make her cum with a vibrator by dragging the toy across her erogenous zones, including her lips, nipples, and the inside of her thighs.
And then when you finally make it to the vagina, stimulate the clit and the vulva with the toys.
If you’re only aiming to avoid penile penetration and are okay with toy penetration, then you can work her over the edge with the toy and clitoris stimulation. You can also make her squirt with a vibrator.
Discover Her Erogenous Zones
To give a woman a full-body orgasm, you have to involve her whole body in the process.
Now, there is no way to know how many erogenous zones your partner has because every person is different. But there are a lot that overlap.
Here are the most common extragenital erogenous zones:
- The entire neck
- The mouth, especially with soft touches
- The ears
- The inner thighs
- The back of the knees
- The feet
- The breasts and nipple
- The pubic mound
- The anus
Go on a tour of your partner’s body to discover all her erogenous zones. Play with different temperatures, textures, and pressures. Give her a nipple orgasm or stimulate her clitoris while kissing and biting her neck.
When you know where all her erogenous zones are, the ways you can give pleasure will be limitless. And it doesn’t require any penetration.
The only thing better than pleasuring your partner might be watching them pleasure themselves.
Mutual masturbation, the act of partners masturbating while watching each other, isn’t practiced nearly enough. Set the mood, dim the lights, tease each other mercilessly, and then watch each other masturbate.
Context is very important in sexual pleasure. And doing something as intimate as masturbating for your own pleasure in front of your partner is very stimulating.
Not only will it keep you away from any penetration, but it’s also a great way to learn about each other’s bodies. Watch what they do and what they like and incorporate it into future play.
Try Dirty Talk
When it comes to sexual pleasure, dirty talk is golden. It helps stimulate the mind in a very physical setting.
And yet, people don’t incorporate it into their sexual fantasies or play. Most people find the thought of dirty talk to be ridiculous, cringy, and a little embarrassing. But we think it might have more to do with the vulnerability of the act.
For starters, what do you say? What would be too far? Would your partner like vulgar talk, degradation, or even a little praise?
The only way to know is to ask. Broach the topic with your partner and give it a little test run. Start with vague terms of things you like about your partner: how they look, how sex with them feels, and what you want to do with them.
And work your way into more and more specific terms. Figure out what gets your partner hot and bothered, and go with it.
Incorporate Kink Play
Similar to how dirty talk exposes us to vulnerable situations, so does kink. But it’s also got some of the biggest payoffs when it comes to sexual pleasure.
If you need to avoid penetration, ask your partner about any fantasies they might have. Have they ever considered doing some mild BDSM, spanking, or role-playing?
If they have, then now is the time to give it a shot. You don’t need professional equipment to dabble in kink. You can use stuff around your home e.g using a tie as a cuff. Play around with textures on a blindfolded partner and add temperature to the mix. Get creative with outfits and reenact movie or porn scenes.
As with all kink play, make sure your partner is comfortable and consenting. Have a safe word in place in case they feel uncomfortable and make sure to be considerate.
Finally, if you’re trying to avoid penetration, then give good old dry humping a go. Dry humping is the act of imitating sexual acts while being clothed or partially clothed. Because the clothes aren’t a solid barrier, a woman can still stimulate her clitoris and cum from the act.
To make it even more fun, try it around your home. Don’t settle just for the bedroom or the couch. You can also add some of the above stimuli to the mix.
But the best way to enjoy dry humping is to do it naked. The challenge of avoiding penetration and edging your partner then becomes part of the pleasure. Have fun but be sure to stick to the no-penetration rule.
Penetrative sex isn’t the only way to experience pleasure with your partner. As the above list proves, there are many ways to make your partner climax with your hands, mouth, and body without using any form of penetration.
As always, make sure your partner is comfortable and enjoying themselves. That will get them closer to orgasm more than any fancy moves would.
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