How to Masturbate as a Woman to Orgasm

How to Masturbate as a Woman to Orgasm

You don’t have to be in a relationship or engage in partnered sex, to enjoy an orgasm. As many women know, it is possible to practice self-love and give yourself pleasure. And if you’re going solo, you’ll love our guide on how to masturbate as a woman to orgasm.

The fact is, many women don’t orgasm during penetrative sex, and yet can orgasm during masturbation. In the guide below, we looked at the statistics and the possible reasons for this. We also included some tips for taking your self-pleasuring session to the next level. 

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How Do You Masturbate as a Woman to Orgasm?

How do you masturbate as a woman to orgasm? Do you have a set routine, or do you like to change things up? If you’re looking for some tips for elevating your masturbation pleasure, read on.

Set the Mood

Setting the mood is just as important for solo sex as it is for partnered sex. It increases arousal, which leads to bigger and better orgasms. Just because you’re on your own, that does not mean that you don’t need to be aroused.

Set aside time when you know you won’t be disturbed by an ill-timed call or message. Switch the computer or tv off and put your mobile phone on silent. Put on some music instead, or take a relaxing bubble bath. You may want to start by touching yourself in the bath.

The sensation of water over the clitoris can be very pleasurable, too. This is why some women enjoy masturbating in the bath or even the shower. The aromas of fragrant shower gels or bath oils can also trigger powerful arousal responses. Many sex toys are also designed to be used in water. 

Explore Using Toys

Have you tried pleasuring yourself with toys? There are so many sex toys available today, and you don’t even have to set foot inside a store. Take a look online, and purchase in the comfort of your own home. Most sex toy retailers send their products in discreet packaging. Only you will know what’s inside!

Because different sex toys can offer different experiences, it’s a good idea to choose more than one design. This will depend on the type of sexual stimulus you enjoy. The main categories to choose from include dildos and vibrators. And within those categories, there are several styles to choose from.

For masturbation as a woman, a finger vibrator is a great investment. It allows you to pleasure yourself in a way most familiar to you, by touching your clitoris. But it adds the extra excitement of vibration. It’s small and easy to use and is a great sex toy for beginners.

If you’ve been wanting to try squirting, this may be the time. Although not all women squirt when they cum, some do squirt from clitoral stimulation

But when learning how to squirt with a toy, try one that stimulates you internally, too. A ‘rabbit vibrator’, that you put into your vagina, will vibrate you internally as well as externally stimulating your clitoris. That’s because it has an external attachment for vibrating your clitoris simultaneously. 

And for a truly powerful orgasm, many women enjoy the curved g-spot vibrator that stimulates the g-spot. Always use lube when using sex toys, especially if you are penetrating yourself with them. This can offer ease of movement, and add to the sensations. 

The Hands-On Approach

Not everyone likes incorporating hardware into their masturbation sessions. If you prefer manual stimulation of your clitoris with your hands, that’s okay too. This is how most women do it, and most likely was the first way you ever masturbated.

You don’t have to limit yourself to the clitoris. You can use your fingers to probe your vagina or even the anus. Girls can cum from fingering whether it’s their partner’s fingers or their own. 

But be sure to only do so if your hands are clean, and your fingernails are trimmed and filed smooth. This will prevent or at least lower the risk of infections. It’s also essential to use lube when masturbating with your fingers.

While you’ll naturally get wet as you become aroused, the slipperiness of lube helps to facilitate things from the start. And some lubes add to the pleasure with heating, cooling, or otherwise stimulating ingredients.

Positions

Your position will also have a big impact on your orgasm potential, and some are better for certain types of orgasms than others. Lying on your back on a comfortable bed with your knees bent will put you in the most comfortable position for clitoral stimulation. Clitoral stimulation will always be the best way to make a girl cum without penetration.

If you want to insert your fingers or a sex toy into your vagina, you may find squatting easier. Of course, you can try the ‘doggy position’ (on all fours), too. It can make it easier to insert a sex toy from behind while stimulating your clitoris by hand from the front, in this position.

Another technique to change things up a bit is to lower yourself down onto a vibrator as if lowering yourself onto a lover. The important thing when choosing a position or technique is that you are comfortable doing it. This may depend on your agility as well as your preferences. 

Some dildos, even rotating or vibrating ones, are available with a suction cup base. This means you can affix it firmly to the floor, and ease yourself down onto it. Alternatively, you can attach it to a surface behind you and back up onto it. Once again your agility will play a role here. 

Other Helpful Tips for Masturbating as a Woman to Orgasm

Setting the mood is not the same for everyone, and it’s always a good idea to keep things fresh and interesting. Try one of the following arousal tools for a different experience.

Read Erotic Literature

If you like to read, why not introduce your favorite pastime into your self-love sessions? Whether it’s a romance novel, an erotic thriller, or anything in between, reading sexual fantasy stories can put you in the mood, fast. And the more arousal, the more chance of a full-body orgasm in women.

If you don’t want to go out and buy a book, look for some sexy stories online. You’ll find stories to cater to any fantasy or kink. This is a safe way to explore kinks without putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. If this arouses you, you can also do this before having partnered sex. 

Reading a story on a tablet or similar device will also make it easier to touch yourself while reading. There’s no book to hold and pages to turn, although you’ll have to occasionally scroll down the page! If you can find a story with images, that’s even better. It can help make the fantasy easier to visualize.

Listen to Sensual Sounds

Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, otherwise known as ASMR, has received a lot of attention in recent years. It describes the sensations that some people experience when listening to certain sounds. These sensations can be very pleasurable, too.

There are many ASMR soundtracks available online. You may need to do some searching before you find one that provokes a response in you. But if that’s not your thing, music or even the sounds of nature can put you in the right mood. Experiment with different sounds, and see what happens.

If you struggle to orgasm, even when you masturbate, it may be due to stress. And listening to relaxing sounds can help lower your stress levels. That will make it easier to orgasm. And it will also benefit your general mental health.

Watch Porn Videos

Lots of women enjoy watching erotic films or porn, and it can be a powerful visual aid when learning how to masturbate as a woman. With many different categories to choose from, you’re virtually guaranteed to find something that you can enjoy. 

That doesn’t mean that you have to sit watching a screen. You can just leave the sound on in the background. If you have thin walls and are concerned about nosy neighbors hearing it, use headphones. And remember, you never have to feel guilty about anything you enjoy watching, listening to, or reading. 

Fantasy is a healthy part of anyone’s sex life, whether partnered or going solo. No one ever has to know what it is that turns you on if that’s how you prefer it. What matters is the response it evokes in you. Once you feel comfortable using porn as a masturbatory aid, you can decide whether or not to use it as a visual aid during sex with a partner.

Why You Need to Know how to Masturbate as a Woman

Many women don’t orgasm during sex but do when they masturbate. What are the statistics regarding this, and what are the reasons for it?

Let’s examine the most interesting statistics about female orgasms first. 

Statistics

Only 65% of women say they orgasm during partnered sex with a man. And only 25% of women always orgasm from vaginal intercourse. But they orgasm up to 60% of the time when their clitoris is stimulated during sex, just like it would be during masturbation.

Yet 92.4% of women can bring themselves to orgasm. For most of them, the first orgasm experience they had was through masturbation. Masturbation is a more reliable method of bringing a woman to orgasm, but why?

Causes

Now, let’s look at the possible causes for these female orgasm statistics. We have identified 5 main causes for the statistics above.

Cause # 1: Not Enough Arousal

If you are not fully aroused, you will not have built up enough sexual tension. As the release of sexual tension is what leads to the pleasurable sensations we know as orgasms, this can be a huge problem. A lack of foreplay is a common culprit in this cause.

Solution

Allow yourself enough time to get in the mood. Foreplay is an essential part of the sexual experience. If you know that you need more time to become aroused enough for an orgasm to happen, speak to your partner. And, if necessary, engage in masturbation as a form of foreplay before partnered sex.

Cause # 2: Lack of Stimulation

During masturbation as a woman, you will usually stimulate your clitoris. This little feature has thousands of nerve endings, super sensitive to stimulation. However, it is not always stimulated enough during sex, especially missionary-style penetrative sex.

Solution

When you masturbate, you can stimulate this little bundle of nerves, directly. Only you know how much, and what kind of pressure or stimulation you need. All women are different. For some, only slight pressure is best. Others may need more. Learn what your own needs are, and be true to that.

Cause # 3: Not Enough Time

Women generally take longer to reach an orgasm than men during partnered sex. So a “quickie” or sex with a male partner who orgasms quickly, won’t allow you enough time to orgasm yourself. This can leave you feeling, understandably, frustrated.

Solution

This is one of the biggest reasons why some women enjoy more orgasms through masturbation. You are not subject to the timing of a partner’s orgasm. You have control over your own sexual stimulus, and response. Take as much time as you need, there’s no rush.

Cause # 4: Mental or Emotional Issues 

In many ways, the most important sex organ is your brain. If you’re just ‘not into it’, are under a lot of stress, or dealing with emotional trauma, an orgasm is far less likely. Early sexual experiences, and attitudes to sex inherited from your upbringing, also play a role.

Solution

If early experiences are causing a mental block for you, or you’re struggling to cope with stress, there are steps you can take. Chat with a registered therapist, or try a mindfulness practice like meditation. They can be very helpful for dealing with mental and emotional causes of a lack of orgasm.

Cause # 5: Hormonal Imbalances

The hormonal shifts and imbalances that are part of peri-menopause, and menopause from the mid-forties onward can also affect your ability to orgasm. It’s because they can cause a lack of libido, vaginal dryness, and other sexual issues.

Solution

If you are going through menopause or suspect that you may be perimenopausal, speak to your doctor or natural healthcare provider. There are a variety of solutions to hormonal imbalances, both medical and herbal. 

Conclusion

There are many reasons why women orgasm more easily when they masturbate. And as this is the only way that some women can climax, it’s essential to know how to masturbate as a woman. So put our tips into practice when you next enjoy some self-pleasuring. 

Masturbating as a Woman (FAQs)

Can masturbating as a woman ever be harmful?

Masturbating as a woman is not harmful, physically or psychologically. It is quite the opposite. Regular self-love sessions will improve your mood, lower your stress, and make you feel good. There is no harm in regular, even daily, masturbation as a woman. 

Does masturbation have a place in a relationship?

Yes! Just as men continue to masturbate, despite being in a relationship, so do women. This is perfectly normal and healthy. Many couples also enjoy watching each other masturbate, or performing mutual masturbation. It does wonders for arousal and bonding. 

Do all women masturbate?

According to research, more than half of American women 18-49 masturbate at least once every 3 months. The statistics for other countries may differ slightly, but most women masturbate regularly. This is the case for both partnered and single women.

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