Can a man feel a woman climax? It’s a question as old as time – or as old as the first erotic novel – and one some men think they know the answer to. But can a man feel a woman climax when having sex? And if they can, how does it feel?
Today, we’ll be demystifying the female orgasm and what men feel during sex, and we’ll discuss the sad reality of assuming your partner is having an orgasm without asking whether they are.
What this article covers:
- Can a Man Feel When a Woman Orgasms?
- What Does a Man Feel When a Woman Orgasms?
- Why Is This an Issue?
- How to Know if a Woman Climaxed
Can a Man Feel When a Woman Orgasms?
Some men claim to feel when a woman has an orgasm. We’re not talking about leg shakes or heavy breathing. No, some men claim to feel the female orgasm while inside their partner. They describe it as a pulse or a tightening of the vaginal muscles.
So, can a man feel a woman cum? Unfortunately, there is no real way to detect whether a woman orgasmed without her telling you she did.
For men or penis-bearing people, it’s easy to see when they’ve reached climax because they ejaculate. And while some women might ejaculate, it’s a very, very small minority that does.
Whether you are male, female, transgender, or non-binary, all humans experience orgasms as contractions of the pelvic muscles. It can last about 30 seconds and feels the same for almost all people.
But for women, it’s a little bit more complicated than that. These contractions can be present even when women aren’t having an orgasm. They’re most likely just a normal accompaniment of sex.
There are signs of a woman reaching orgasm but generally, female sexual pleasure is a lot more nuanced than a pump, contract, and cum. What makes a woman cum differs from woman to woman and the way they experience orgasm is just as varied.
While one woman might cum with an explosion of expletives, another might orgasm quietly with only a small increase in breathing. Some women can cum multiple times and others only every now and then.
What Does a Man Feel When a Woman Orgasms?
As mentioned above, people across the gender spectrum experience orgasms similarly, and one of the parts of that experience is pelvic muscle contractions. This is what men feel inside women.
It’s usually girthier penises that feel these muscle contractions. Penises with more nerve endings are also likely to feel some muscle contraction.
But these pulses don’t guarantee an orgasm or even any sort of great sensation or pleasure; a lot of women can climax without pelvic floor contractions. They are the pulses that might lead to orgasm but are just as likely to lead to nothing.
Why Is This an Issue?
If you’ve never heard about the orgasm gap, welcome! Unfortunately, the orgasm gap refers to the gap between (mostly) heterosexual couples and the very low frequency with which heterosexual women have an orgasm.
Most often men believe their partner climaxed because of the above-mentioned pulses. It leaves very few women satisfied and a lot of male partners feeling proud without asking the dreaded “did you cum?” question.
The belief that a small pulse could signal climax only widens the gap between female and male sexual pleasure. The sad fact is this pulse combined with the need to placate their partners’ feelings leaves a lot of women high and dry.
It gets doubly hard with women who have never climaxed with a partner. They might feel pressured to fake an orgasm or learn how to fake squirting.
So when a man thinks he’s made a woman cum because of small muscle contractions, it perpetuates a way of thinking that doesn’t encourage communication.
Instead, it encourages men to assume they know about female pleasure instead of learning ways to make a girl climax from the source itself.
How to Know if a Woman Climaxed
All you need to do is ask your partner. It’s as simple as that.
Women don’t orgasm the same and it won’t be possible to determine your partner’s level of pleasure without asking them how it felt.
Ask your partner how the sex was. Ask them if they climaxed. If they didn’t orgasm, ask how you can help them.
Four in five women can’t climax from vaginal penetration alone and need help with clitoral stimulus through manual stimulus. Encourage them to be open and earnestly listen to your partner and their needs.
Female pleasure is nuanced but not complicated. With a little teamwork and open communication, everyone could be experiencing pleasure as they should.
Women, if you are with a partner that isn’t providing you with the pleasure you deserve, it’s time to bring the issue up. If your partner refuses to work with you for your pleasure, it might be time to look for someone who will.
It’s time to stop guessing when it comes to female pleasure and to give it its due consideration when having sex. Do women know when they cum? Most do, and so could you. All you have to do is ask.
Female pleasure has many men – and women – stumped. It’s led to minor vaginal pulses being the be-all and end-all of female pleasure. Unfortunately, it’s more complicated than a sensitive penis and a few pelvic muscle contractions.
There is no way to determine whether a woman came besides asking her. Open communication about female pleasure will narrow the orgasm gap and have you one step closer to experiencing sex as it should be – with both partners having a great time.
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