There is no denying that the orgasm gap between men and women is massive. It is so much harder for women to climax than it is for men. And, if you aren’t able to, it can leave you feeling disappointed and like you are not good enough.
Your inability to orgasm may lead you to question yourself. Do all women cum? Will I ever experience an orgasm in my life?
If this is you, and you find these thoughts creeping into your head, you are not alone.
There are many reasons why women cannot orgasm all the time. And we can assure you, it is generally not your fault.
This orgasm gap also often leaves men wondering why they can’t make their girlfriend cum.
We are here to shed some light on this topic and explain to you why not all women can orgasm and squirt very easily. And, hopefully, this will equip you to start turning this around and minimizing the orgasm gap between males and females.
What this article covers:
- Can All Women Orgasm?
- Why Do Some Women Struggle to Have an Orgasm?
- Can All Women Ejaculate or Squirt?
Can All Women Orgasm?
Technically, almost all women have the physical ability to orgasm if stimulated correctly. But unfortunately, there are very few women that actually experience orgasms, especially through heterosexual intercourse.
There is a very small percentage of women who orgasm through penetration alone. And because very few men know, or care, about this fact, women often do fake orgasms.
As we mentioned, women need to be correctly stimulated in order to orgasm. And for the majority of women, this means stimulating their clitoris.
While there are certain sex positions that can target the clitoris, it is much more effective to use external stimulation to do this. This can be in the form of sex toys, hand stimulation, or oral stimulation.
If a woman’s clitoris is stimulated during intercourse, and you include bouts of foreplay, as opposed to just focusing on penetrative sex, we can guarantee you that almost any woman will be able to orgasm.
Of course, there are a few exceptions to this. There are a few circumstances and scenarios that make it harder than usual for a woman to orgasm, and because of this, the above may not work.
But, with this being said, they are still likely to have the physical ability to experience an orgasm. There may just be something that is stopping it from occurring at that specific time.
Additionally, there are some women who suffer from orgasmic disorders and are unable to have orgasms at all.
We will delve into the details of all of this shortly.
How Many Women Have Never Had an Orgasm?
If you have never had an orgasm before, it will naturally lead you to wonder why you can’t cum, and if there is something wrong with you.
The first thing that you need to assess is if you have been stimulated in a way that arouses you and can lead to an orgasm. If you have, and still have not managed to experience an orgasm, you are not alone.
Studies have shown that approximately 10 – 15% of women suffer from anorgasmia. This is an orgasmic disorder which means that they have never experienced an orgasm in their life and will never be able to.
The sad reality is that even some women who don’t suffer from anorgasmia have never been able to reach climax before. So this means that there are definitely more than 10-15% of women who have never had an orgasm before.
Why Do Some Women Struggle to Have an Orgasm?
There are quite a few different things that can cause women to have difficulty reaching climax. We are going to talk about the most common reasons, that are also easy to modify.
If you don’t communicate with your partner and show him where and how you like to be stimulated, it will be a lot harder for you to orgasm.
You need to tell him if you don’t like something he is doing, especially if you do like something, as this will help him to stimulate you correctly and give you a higher chance of having an orgasm.
Research shows that if you have a better, and more steady relationship with your partner, you are more likely to have an orgasm.
For example, if you are sleeping with a random hookup, it will be harder to have an orgasm compared to if it was someone you had been in a relationship with for more than six months.
A woman’s self-esteem plays a big role in whether she can easily orgasm or not. If she thinks poorly of herself and has very low self-esteem, then her ability to orgasm will be reduced.
It will be hard for her to let go and get out of her head. She will most probably be overthinking throughout your sexual experience, and this will make it difficult to orgasm.
This is a factor that can be changed if a woman becomes more confident in herself. So it is important to realize that a lack of self-esteem does not equate to a woman never being able to orgasm.
Because the orgasm gap is so massive, and there is a stigma around women not being able to orgasm, there is a lot of pressure when it comes down to it.
Women feel that they have to have an orgasm to enjoy themselves and for their partners to feel accomplished. They feel like if they don’t have an orgasm that they are not adequate or worthy.
This leads them to overthink and makes the process of having an orgasm a lot more difficult.
Can All Women Ejaculate or Squirt?
Again, as with an orgasm, almost all females have the ability to squirt or ejaculate. Of course, there is the exception of those who have anorgasmia. But, if you are a female and do not have anorgasmia, you do have the ability to squirt.
But unfortunately, even though almost all women have the ability, the percentage of girls who squirt regularly, or at all, is very low.
It is pretty difficult for women to squirt, even more so than it is for them to orgasm. It takes a lot more stimulation, and precise techniques for a woman to squirt, which is why it hardly happens.
The best way to test out if you can squirt is through masturbation and figuring out exactly where you need to be stimulated in order to squirt.
While some women can learn to squirt, it does take a lot of effort and practice. So, it is important to remember that if you can’t squirt, or it takes a while for you to learn how to, this is normal.
As we mentioned, squirting is less common than orgasms are in women, so it is not something to feel bad about if you struggle to achieve this.
While almost all women have the capability to orgasm and squirt or ejaculate, not all of them do. Orgasms and squirting are unique sensations and differ from woman to woman.
How often girls orgasm or squirt will differ from person to person, and may change each time you have intercourse.
While there are certain things that can be done to get you to orgasm or squirt more easily, keep in mind that anorgasmia is also a real problem for some women.
So, if you have difficulty orgasming or squirting, or aren’t able to do it at all, please don’t feel inadequate. This is completely normal, and something that can possibly change over time.
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